Single Parenting

Developing a Nurturing Child

Children take the lead on how to be nurturing and caring from the parent. Seeing empathy in action shows them how to act in similar situations. Pets are a good way to help children learn to care for something other than themselves, however, be certain of the commitment required before you entertain the thought of getting one.

Setting Boundaries

Setting boundaries early on in the child's life is critically important. It is the basis for all of their relationships moving forward. They must know:

the parent needs time for themselves, whether to do chores or to relax.

The child also needs time on their own, developing their independence.

They must learn to understand who can do what with them, where and when.

Privacy & Respect

Children must be taught that their bodies are private and once they are old enough to bathe themselves that this is their responsibility. They must know they can advise the parent at anytime if someone has overstepped the boundaries. Their privacy must be respected at all times.

Developing Trust

The child must be taught that trust is key in any relationship. The parent's job is, amongst other things, to protect and care for the child, raising them to be independent, responsible adults. They must know they can tell the parent anything and be able to trust them implicitly.

Develop a routine

Children need a routine - it gives them a sense of structure. There need to be specific times for:

• playing

• eating

• learning or reading, and

• communicating with family and friend 

It also helps them realise who is in control when the parent sets the routine and abides by their own rules.

Discipline

Discipline means good behaviour, with the child understanding the need for self-control and restraint. A child disciplined by parents reinforces the child's understanding that there are societal rules in life that need to be followed. This is not punitive, it is good for the child and gives them a sense of security.

Sharing

Whether there is a sibling in the family or not, the child must be taught to share. Whether this is:

• toys being shared with a playmate

• a snack being shared with the parent, or

• school lunch being shared with a friend