Mindset - Perspectives, Perceptions & Peace
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Perspectives
If only I had known thirty years ago what I know now, how differently my life might have turned out.
Past reflections
It is only through reflection on our past, revisiting our life experiences, that we can actually realise what we have been through.
We need to review the scenes played out, the role each 'player' held, and then allow ourselves to 'feel' the emotions we experienced at that time.
This activity is most helpful - not to bring you down, or wallow in regrets, but to assess your life and the actions taken by you that got you to where you are today.
Perspectives & Perceptions
Let's learn from ourselves.
When reviewing your life as an 'observer', it may seem vastly different from when you were a participant.
Why is that?
It isn't because your memory has faded, but mostly due to the fact you are no longer emotionally wrapped up in the situation playing out before you.
You can therefore look at the situation more rationally, and it is important to be bluntly honest with yourself about what you're seeing.
Our perceptions of what the situation was at the time, may actually have been quite removed from what your mind is showing you now.
It's like nature or buildings; what we see from a specific angle will look completely different, depending on where you are located - at a vantage point, or 'within' the structure.
The image below is a great example - the view from the outside looking in, won't look anything like what it looks like when you're walking through it.
Life is no different - when you're caught up in the swirling, whirling whirlpool of a situation, there is so much mental and emotional entanglement, that it is often tough to see the real picture.
There is a reason for the saying - take a step back and see the 'bigger' picture.
It's not bigger per se, but stepping back enables one to see an overview of everything that is happening, not just your 'narrow' - minded view of what is immediately around you.
Mindset
When we refer to 'Mindset change' in coaching, it is, of course, not an actual 'brain' change 😂🤣, but focusing predominantly on the following:
Changing our perspectives (of life, people, ourselves, situations)
Gaining greater understanding of ourselves (what drives us, hurts us)
Learning acceptance (of self and others)
Forgiveness (unburdening ourselves - letting go)
These may not look important, but they saved my life, literally.
I was raised to always respect others, and put them first, especially the elderly and people in positions of authority.
I did exactly that, so, when the abuse from others started in my life, I stood back and let it happen....for a long time, from people close to me and in authoritative roles.
Why?
I believed it was not my place to speak out against them. It would be disrespectful, and disloyal...really!
Only when I was emotionally broken, and physically weak, and I started my coaching course; did I, (through pain, reflection, and guidance), realise how wrong the advice was that I had been given so many years before.
Through the coaching I realised how skewed my perspectives and perceptions had been for most of my life, and once I understood my actual reality better, I was able to learn how to take back control of my life.
Peace
A lot of hardship and heartache would have been prevented had I learned this before, but, that is life - wisdom comes from our experiences... we need to be willing to learn from them though, and use that knowledge to enhance our lives and strengthen our souls.
Thankfully, I have walked that path, and peace resides within me, no longer dependent on external factors - many of which are largely, outside of my control.
Be brave
Reach out to us
Give yourself a chance to live the life you want
Much love,
Merrill
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Hi, I’m Merrill…
People who have never experienced trauma, PTSD, sexual or other abuse, narcissistic people, backstabbing, humiliation, degradation, or worse, especially if over a lengthy duration, are not able to relate to others going through similar experiences.
I have experienced all of these, and am still standing. I have worked through it all, mentally and emotionally, and have healed.
This healing does not mean I don't, or can't talk about what I have gone through - just the opposite....I talk openly and use what I learned from those experiences to make myself stronger.
I am capable of dealing with situations that may arise in my life far more productively, with a focus on using any negative incident to build further resilience through lessons learned.
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